By couples; asked separately.

Him: "Romance? I don't know; I don't DO romance stuff."
Her: "For me it would be if he ever gave me flowers. He does light candles occasionally." (these two are dating)

Her: "Him (with a nod at a spouse) getting up with the kids and feeding them breakfast while I sleep in."
Him: "For me it is when I get an afternoon away to play golf with no guilt attached. For her; she thinks it is romantic if I let her sleep in and I get up with the kids." (these guys are so married and they seem to understand each other well.)

Him: "When she asks me out to dinner at my favorite restaurant."
Her: "When he asks me out to dinner at my favorite restaurant." (these two are a couple; I got a kick out of their answers)

Her: "My idea of a romantic night would be no kids, a candle-lit dinner that he cooked, a bottle of wine, getting to sleep at a decent hour and being able to sleep all night. He'd like it if we never 'got' to sleep!"
Him: "She'd like the candle-lit dinner routine; I would too actually. I wonder if her mom could watch the kids tonight..." (Yup, married and btw, grandma showed up to snag the kids about an hour after that conversation, didn't see either of them til this afternoon and both looked pretty darned happy!)