His Cheating Heart

You are walking hand in hand with your boyfriend in the mall when all of a sudden his mouth drops and his head turns 180 degrees following a hot babe in a short black mini skirt. Once he turns back to look at you, you stare him down and give him the evil eye. In the back of your mind you begin to question your relationship. If given the chance would he pursue her? Would he cheat on you if the opportunity arose? Or has there ever been a time when he might have done it and you never were the wiser?

Has he ever crossed the line? Maybe, it all depends on your definition of cheating. Some boyfriends tend to be somewhat flirtations. It is truly harmless right? Most of the time yes, but there is that emotional cheating. Some boyfriends may be clueless of their actions and become dependant on the emotions of the opposite sex. They thrive to get attention from someone else other than there girlfriend. It could be a simple touch on the hand or on the shoulder. So what defines cheating? Some girlfriends may think that is any act that betrays them emotionally and/or physically while others believe that it is to have sexual relationship with someone other than their partner. Sure if your partner sleeps with someone else he has definitely crossed the line, but what about a kiss. Depends, a kiss on the cheek from a female friend doesn’t mean he is cheating, but a full force lip lock can create a path into unfaithful grounds. It could mean one step closer to getting naked together. A line some boyfriends don’t think twice about crossing until it is too late. A secret he might have to live with forever and in hopes that no one will ever find out, especially his sweet and loyal girlfriend.

So why do some boyfriends cheat? Is it pure instinct, nature or has society taught us that it is acceptable behavior? If our country leaders and entertainment role models can cheat and not so much as be shunned for it than what it that saying to the fellow man? Adultery is wrong. All guys know that cheating is wrong so why do they do it? The reasons why boyfriends cheat on their girlfriends can be varied. Some guys will blame their reasons for cheating on their genes and their necessity to reproduce. Guys have the typical animal behavior, pure instinct of the nature of the beast. Hello! Shouldn’t your boyfriend be a little more evolved and make conscious decisions of what is right and wrong? You would think that they should be able to control their bodies better than a wild animal on the prowl. It is not like they can be locked up in a cage and sedated until they can control their urges. In most cases guys do not get offered sex as much as girls do so when the opportunity come knocking on their door it could be hard for them to turn it away. It is an ego booster when a hot girl shows interest in them. They feel attractive and in charge. Guys love the thrill of the chase especially once they are rewarded for all their efforts. Guys often like to be the one in charge of the relationship. Society has shown us that men are the stronger sex, or at least they should be, not to say that there are not strong women out there. When a guy is in a relationship with an argumentative partner they tend to shy away and he and his partner may grow apart and even fall out of love. Once a guy has fallen out of love with his girlfriend, sex can become quite boring. Guys like excitement! Sometime it is just to see what they can get away with. Guys in society have cheated for numerous years on their partners in the public eye and have gotten away with it. If their partner turns a blind eye once who says she will not do it again? How can you get mad if you let your guy cheat on you and not say anything about it? If you forgive him over and over again for his cheating than you are just as much to blame for his infidelities. Sometimes they will cheat because they have seen it with their own eyes. Take a look at his parents. Remember, children learn by example. If he grew up seeing his father cheat on his mother, chances are he has learned this behavior. He grew up thinking that it was normal for a man to look outside his marriage or relationships to satisfy his needs emotionally and sexually. How can you criticize your own guy if his father taught him that cheating was ok?

So how do you know if your guy is cheating on you? There are some simple signs that you should observe. You should never confront or accuse him without solid proof. Be aware of his behavior and actions. Sit back and watch him in action. Be patient, time will tell if he is unfaithful. Most guys while being unfaithful tend to spend less time with you than they used to. This is because he will need to free up some time to be with his other girlfriend. When he is with you there may be a lack of intimacy in the relationship. He may be irritable, grouchy and may even criticize you more when he is around you. His guilt may have something to do with his emotions. If his behavior is on a roller coaster ride chances are something is up. He tends to avoid you and will make up excuses why he can not be with you. He may even avoid your phone calls. Chances are he will not answer his cell phone if he is out on a date with his other woman. It might be the same when he is around you. Does he answer his cell phone when he is with you? Maybe if it is his buddy, but is there some calls he checks the display screen and doesn’t answer? If he has caller ID you could ask to borrow his phone and check the last callers. Make up an excuse that you need to call your mom to remind her about something and your cell phone is dead. Go into another room and take a quick peek. He may not even let you borrow his phone if he is a little paranoid you may stumble across his girl friends phone number. If you really think your guy is cheating on you set up a trap? Get one of your best girlfriends that he has never seen to help you. Get her to go to a restaurant where you will be with your man. Excuse yourself from the table and go to the bathroom or say you forgot something in the car. Now this is where your girlfriend comes in handy. While you are away get her to make a move on him. Get her to give him her phone number. It might be a day or two before he calls her, but if he does chances are he is not serious about your relationship.

How can you help your guy from straying before it becomes too late? It is a two way street. As his girlfriend you should be aware of his past relationships. Did he cheat on them? If so chances are he might do the same to you. Too many girlfriends become pushy and date the wrong guy just because she feels she can make a difference in his life. Wrong! You can not change a man, he has to change his ways for himself and for the right reasons. If you feel he is worthy of you then having some faith in your relationship and in your guy could work to your advantage. He might surprise you. If you accuse him of cheating when he never has he might stray into someone else’s arms just so he is no longer wrongfully accused. Guys tend to like a girl with confidence. If his girlfriend lacks it he might find the relationship lacking in areas. Remember what drew him to you in the first place? Be that girl! Keep the excitement alive. No one likes to have the same boring meal night after night. If you find your relationship starting to get into a rut make a change here and there. Break the routine! If not you may find yourself the victim of an unfaithful boyfriend.

So, where to do you go from here? If he is being unfaithful you need to find comfort in friends and family members. Take advice from them, but don’t let them make the decision for you. Remember it is your life and your feelings. If you have solid proof of your man cheating on you, you should confront him. Let him know where you stand. Watch him squirm! If he loves you like he says he does and you feel the same, you could work things out, but you both need to be committed to your relationship and working things out. He has to keep in mind that he broke your trust and it will take time to earn it back. It doesn’t happen over night. If you feel totally betrayed and don’t think you will ever be able to get over his betrayal the best thing would be to break all ties. Give yourself time to heal before you start fresh with someone new.