Connie's Corner

Unintentional observation

Sometimes I find myself so self-conscious in a group of people that I am unable to observe the way I intend. I hate being this way and wonder if anyone has this problem and has found any solution? For example, my writers' group has a speaker presentation at our library every month, usually someone somehow involved with writing. The last one was a journalist, now retired, but continuing to freelance. Before the meeting I am always listing in my mind how I want to observe what people are wearing, what they do with their hands, how they choose their seat, are they talkative or quiet, do they come alone or with someone, do they linger after or leave promptly...or even before the end. I am looking for new characteristics. But when I get to the meeting, sometimes, as this last time, I am asked to do something and get so anxious I forget to observe. Then, later, sometimes if I really concentrate, I am able to "bring back" some observations I did not know I was making. So...maybe observing becomes an unconscious habit over time and with intentional practice when possible. Does this happen to you?

until next time...c