Porthole

Call me Eeyore. Sad is okay. Bring me a mug and a hug.

PROMPT March 23rd

What do you do to improve your mood when you are sad?
If you are frustrated or angry,
what is your secret to feeling better?

If you are happy and cheerful then continue being happy and cheerful and don't let my sadness or sorrow cloud your sunny day.

BUT, if you demand that I be happy too? Go away ... far far away.

Validate me by letting me be if you cannot embrace me. I work things out through sadness and tears just like others release their feelings through laughter.

If you insist on me having to keep it all in because you can't handle it?

You're being toxic.

And that makes me angry (with isn't good for me). I need to ask myself when I'm angry, "what do I fear?" In this case the fear is becoming invisible when my true emotions aren't validated.

I had a friend who always wanted me to be happy around her. No gloom anywhere near her. It actually made it very difficult for me to be me. Perhaps my gloom was toxic to her? Perhaps I reminded her too much of her son? Of that I'm sure.

Allow me to work on my own emotions in my own way. You don't own them; you are not responsible to 'fix' them.

That said... a hug is most welcome. Listening helps me. Sharing something that resonates makes me feel less alone. Distracting me (let's go for walk, smell the flowers, get coffee, make dinner, plant potatoes, pick peas) can be a great idea. Especially a with coffee in it (cream, sugar, spice, please).

Call me Eeyore if you must. Bring me a mug and a hug if you can.