Complex Numbers

Bungalow Bash

Today, we have an exercise in metaphor-stretching:

    Caveat Bungalow  
The ostracizing of normal

This starts out looking like a piece about housing:

When I was a kid, I lived in a bungalow for a while. You know, one of those houses that’s compact and square and has a half-upper floor that’s basically just a loft with sloped ceilings.

Yeah, well, the house I lived in as a kid was originally a shotgun shack.

Now if someone told me to live in a loft with sloped ceilings I’d ask if there was any regular house available, please.

Nice to be able to be picky, isn't it?

Something else I’ve noticed that’s shaped like a bungalow is the way we talk to each other. Human speech.

And that's the metaphor part, which, as it turns out, is what the post is really about.

We waste an unbelievable amount of time — in our daily lives, on podcasts, in interviews, in blogs and articles, even in Tweets and Notes for God’s sakes — qualifying everything we say with caveats. We say “now I know not all x are y, and I know that historically abc, and I’m not trying to say that lmnop so please don’t take this wrong…”

Granted, I avoid X/Twatter like the plague it is, and I don't listen to podcasts. But while I've seen what this dude's talking about, and even engaged in it on occasion (for instance, when I note that I might be talking about something with a US bias), I don't think disclaimers like that rise to the level of wasting "an unbelievable amount of time."

Saying anything even remotely controversial on the internet is terrifying.

Is it though? Is it more terrifying than saying it in a crowd of Americans with guns?

No matter what argument you make on the internet, you will get people who reject it wholesale because you forgot an asterisk. Because you forgot to mention their particular edge case.

Yes, and?

We all know that not all heterosexual dating advice or sex advice applies to transgender people. It doesn’t even apply to all straight people. We are all intelligent enough to know that.

[citation needed] on the "intelligent" bit.

People have managed to make it insensitive to speak about things that the majority of people deal with. People have managed to make it insensitive to be normal.

And what, exactly, is "normal?"

And then the tyrannical minority ostracizes you for it, and in turn makes it okay for everyone else to ostracize you.

"Tyrannical minority?" Loud, sometimes, maybe, but that seems like an oxymoron. Unless the "minority" is an actual, political tyrant, a minority of one.

If you drove down a street consisting entirely of overly-decorated bungalows, with nice upper windows and big, furnished porches, you’d call bullshit on the entire street.

No, I don't think I would.

Everywhere I look, I see people decorating their speech with nuance when all they really want to say is some simple, normal thing. It feels like bullshit.

Well, it's not everywhere I look. Perhaps examine your own biases, first?

People don't change their minds on the internet. They usually do that in books, battlefields, or not at all.

Yeah, that's a little bleak.

Some people are just actively searchlighting for reasons to get outraged. They aren’t worth listening to.

On that, we can agree.

People who need that much nuance weren’t going to learn from your argument anyway.

Aaaannnd you've lost me again.

As I've said before — we as a culture have become profoundly unserious.

To me, the opposite of "serious" is "funny." So the opposite of "unserious" would be "unfunny." Me? I'd rather be funny.

Maybe if we just start saying what we mean and placing the impetus on the reader to read nuance into the topic, we’ll all grow up a little.

Well, sure, calling me childish certainly helps your argument.

People are tired of having to decorate their speech to make it marketable.

I think by "people," he means "I." As in him, not me.

I think we’re past peak Woke, and I think part of what that means is that we’re past peak not-being-able-to-speak-like-adults.

Ah, there it is.

I'm not dismissing his argument, mind you. I read the whole thing, top to bottom (it's really not that long). I simply don't agree with most of it, though I accept that my opinion could change.

If you're going to do a metaphor, make sure it's one that we can actually relate to. Bungalows may not be exotic or ritzy, but they're generally better than no home at all.

So that's me, saying what I mean.