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June 30 2025 - Friendships

Prompt: “True friendship resists time, distance, and silence.” Isabel Allende. In your opinion, what is true friendship

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I have a friend that I have been friends with since she was nine and I was ten. We were both at boarding school with each other, so we slept in the same dorm, (I think we may have shared a bunk bed at one point), we ate breakfast, and lunch, and dinner together seven days a week for weeks on end. We also shared clothes, made up dance routines, cried over boys, and sneaked around in bushes smoking... We did this for five years.

There were times that instead of going home for the holidays, I went to her house instead, and vice versa. I love her like a sister; I love her family like my own. I have the fondest and more truest memories with her.

We are not a close as we used to be, although I do still consider her one of my truest friends. She stills lives in the UK, I live in Australia and the distance and time difference sucks. In all honesty, we were useless at actively keeping in touch in the UK, as we lived hours apart. She defiantly has friends she confides in more than me now - especially about everyday things, and I do the same. Although we do let each other know about the big things in our lives - babies, divorce, deaths etc...

However, I know without a doubt that, was I to move back, we'd be inseparable again. Or if I turned up on her doorstep, she'd welcome me in for cocktails and midnight bacon sandwiches. Our friendship has transcended time and distance and silence.

I can be honest with her, and she will do the same. We don't always agree, but rarely argue, and will defend each other against any and all threats. It's not the same friendship we had in school, it's not the same we had when we were in our twenties, it has ebbs and flows and will continue to evolve - which is the definition of everlasting.