Melia's Life

Dealing with power struggles

My three-year-old daughter is now starting power struggles with her Daddy that I have to step in the middle and seperate the two of them for periods at a time. I have a feeling she is trying to figure out where she fits in as a middle child.

I can sort of understand because even though I was the youngest child in my family I always felt like I was like the black sheep that nobody knew what to do with because I had a strong willed temperament. I often felt that I did not get the attention I needed and wanted from my Mom until my sister married when I was almost sixteen-years-old. Before then I felt my Mom liked my sister more then me and shuffled me off to the side, of course she feels otherwise because of all the time she had to spend taking me to physical and occupational therapy and doctors' appointments for my disability, cerebral palsy. The thing that about it was that I thought of this as a mandatory thing that was no fun and spent very little time just us two together.

Anyway, my husband and daughter have fought and fought and it comes a time in which I cannot take it any longer. I know she is looking for attention from him especially with the new baby sister in the house. I may have to get my husband to spend more time with his daughter and less time with his baby daughter.

Sigh, my life is chaotic. Would you like to step in my shoes for awhile?