A little something about nothing

Honesty = Hurt Feelings

I got an email the other day from my aunt. She was giving me an update on their future move back to Michigan. Nothing is official yet, but it seems by summer they will be making the move.

Before the email ended she threw in the comment, "when I move there will you be coming to visit and hang out with me? I can imagine all the fun things we will do." I'm not sure how to respond to this. Of course I will visit and there will be times we'll hang out; however, this will not be a regular occurance, which I believe she may be expecting.

A few years back she had moved up here and at first she lived with me. Since I was little I looked forward to this day. Once it happened it was great...at first. Then we realized our differences and were forced to work through them, which is easier said then done. Months later she moved in with her boyfriend she had met, which is now her husband. Once she started dating him we spent less and less time together. Then she moved back to GA. During this time something happened, which I'm still puzzled as to what it was, but distance has grown between us. I've made the effort to remain in contact and try to talk about things, but she doesn't have the time or chooses to keep everything in. Whatever the case, I still love her and accept her for who she is, but I do not feel as close to her as I once did.

When I heard they would be moving back I was excited, but it also made me a little nervous. I know she won't have many friends and she will look towards me to pick up where we left off. I can't do that. My life has changed and I have my own things I do now. Not saying I won't have time for her or that she won't be included when I do things, but it won't be the same as when she originally moved here. I stopped everything and took her everywhere with me.

I just don't know how to tell her this without hurting her feelings. She is very sensitive and could easily take my words the wrong way.