Too purty to live in town.....

5/20/07

Today I want to talk about singles ads. I've only dated 2 men in the last 5 years. My choice, yes, but the truth of the matter is most of the single men I have encountered are simply not what I'm looking for. So, like many people, I went to the almighy internet and placed singles ads on a few sites. I haven't and still don't have high expectations with it, but who knows what may happen, and there's no harm done in looking.

I'm doing quite well on my own, and don't NEED a man in my life. It would be great to have someone special who thinks that I'm wonderful, but I'm doing just fine being single.

It's not that I'm too terribly picky. I do have a few things that are important to me. I don't want a convicted felon, or drug user. I’m not interested in dating outside my ethnicity. I’m not racist, mind you, I just don’t care to date outside my race. I don’t want some mama’s boy who still lives with their mama other than taking care of her for health reasons. I want them to be honest, financially independent and gainfully employed. Simple stuff. Basic stuff. They don't need to be a millionaire, or a rocket scientist, just someone who wants a meaningful relationship and not just a piece of ass.

It's absolutely baffling, and somewhat humorous in a sad way to read other's ads. I can't imagine that people actually think they will get responses to what they write. Most sites have you write a "tag line" or an attention getter line that will create enough interest so that others would want to read more. Here are some examples of tag lines I've seen:

mmmmmmgood
want-in-it
smooth-n-bold
left-out
need-weed

You get the idea, and it’s totally not impressive. Oh, and they want to meet a woman in her 40's who has NO baggage and NO drama. Yeah, right. Dream on, Mofo.

Then, there's the men in their mid 40's who seem to think that if they type in "text message language" that they will appear "hip" and "cool". Think again. I've gotten messages that look like this:

"How r u? I like 2 get 2 no u more...." etc. Not gonna happen, dude. Especially when I put in my profile that I like INTELLIGENT conversation. There is this thing called spellcheck for those that have trouble spelling. Typing in text message lingo just seems lazy to me.

Then there are those who have so many isms and are so daggum particular to the point that there is no humanly possible way anyone could meet their criteria. It just totally blows my mind.

I either don’t have a picture posted with my ad or use a very old picture. I don’t want to be judged by my appearance, and if the first contact I receive is a request for a “pic”, I lose interest very quickly. I don’t want someone who is so superficial who would discount me because I’m not a supermodel. Some of the most beautiful people I know are not the most physically attractive, but my life is so much more blessed because they are in it. Looks are so temporary anyway. Men deal with hair falling out, women’s breasts sag and droop. You take what life gives you. I’d much rather base my dating decisions on the integrity and character of an individual rather than their looks.

So, in the meanwhile, I enjoy the entertainment factor that browsing singles ads provide, and realize that my life ain't so bad.

Thanks for stopping by,
Curls