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Family (other than romantic relationships or parenting)- 0

I have disconnected from all family, except for my children, because they are toxic to my well-being.

Romantic relationships (marriage, life partners, dating and so on)- Right now this is a 10 for me. It hasn't always been.

Parenting- 5

Now that my last child has turned 18, this number has changed. While raising all my kids, the number here would have been a 10. I'm always a mother, but when they become adults, you have to step back and let them make their own choices. Advice is something they get when they ask for it only, otherwise it borders on being judgemental. In other words, they are adults, so it's alright to be more of a friend than a parent now. It is also alright for me to be a little more selfish now, not centering everything around my kids.

Friends and social life- 5

I'm an introvert who is fine with having only a few close friends.

Work/Career- 5

I'm just tired. Most of my life has been spent being overwhelmed and working my ass off to support three children on my own. I just want to make my money and deal with the least amount of drama possible.

Education, training, and knowledge- 10

If I could afford it, I'd just be a career college student.

Recreation, hobbies, and fun- 8

These days, activities that bring me joy and/or solitude are more important to me than work.

Spirituality and religion- 10

Citizenship and community life- 5

The least I have to deal with people and their drama the better.

Self-care (exercise, diet, relaxation, and so on)- 8

For me, this entwines with my spiritual health. Also, since I'm getting older, health has become more and more important to me. I wasn't always like this. Many times in my life this would be somewhere between 0 to 5.

Looking at these scores, I can see how just a few years ago my priorities were very different. I think I am just at a point where only choosing those things that bring me happiness are important to me. My kids are all pretty much grown, so it is my turn. They have their own lives separate from mine. I can go have fun without worrying about having to pay a baby sitter. Now, I only have to work because I want to, not because I have to.

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