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A support forum for writers dealing with mental illness
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Apr 1, 2019 at 6:33am
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*Sun*Re: TotW: Without Mental Illness
by QPdoll Author IconMail Icon
Where do you think you be if you had never been affected by mental illness (either your mental illness or someone else’s)?

Wow. Excellent question. I've often thought about what my life would be like if I didn't have depression. I think I'd be able to speak up more often than I do now. I think I'd not be so lazy or get overwhelmed as quickly as I do now. I'm pretty sure my house would be much cleaner! I'd like to think that everything wouldn't seem like a chore. I picture it as a brighter, happier place. Clearly, there'd be disappointment and heartache, that's part of life, but I picture it brighter.

*Bullet* What are some major life differences you’d have if you’d never been impacted by mental health issues?
I think I'd be a little more outgoing than I am now. I'd like to hope that I'd have more friends, but that's tough when you're an adult to make friends. I sure as hell would be living in a different house. Don't get me wrong, I like the house I'm in now, but I think if I didn't have my mental illness, I wouldn't necessarily "settle" for things.

*Bullet* Do you think you’d be in the same career/field? Would your day-to-day life look different?
I do think I'd be in the same career or field, but I'd be a little higher up the chain. I don't know if my day-to-day would look different, I've never gotten that far in my thoughts. I would still be getting my kids up and off to school in the morning, then heading off to work. So my guess is that it wouldn't look much different, except I'd be coming out of a different house!

*Bullet* Would your family look the same? Same partner, number of kids, same friends?
That's a very good question. I don't know that I would have married the person I did if I didn't have my mental illness. But I definitely want my daughters and they could have only been created by the two of us. I'd definitely have the same number of kids, I think. But I don't know, maybe I could handle more than what I have now. I can only predict. I remember when I was younger thinking I wanted a lot of kids because I wanted them to have each other for support when I was gone. Seeing all kinds of movies about families with more than four kids, just made me think life would be richer with more kids. I'd like to hope they'd be somewhat close to each other and not harbor any kind of hate for one another.

*Bullet* In what ways would your life be better without mental health issues? In what ways would your life be worse?
I think I'd be a more confident person, more willing to try new things. I'd definitely be someone who could save money, I'd like to hope, anyway. My life would be better, maybe, because I'd be in the place "most" people are in ... a nice house, nice cars, etc. But those are all material things. I just want a house with a damn dishwasher. My house is over seventy years old. But, it's all brick and I like that. If I could motivate my husband to cut out the drawers next to the sink and slide a dishwasher in there, I'd be set. But we've been trying to finish the bedroom downstairs for years. That hasn't happened yet. My goal is to have it done by August. We'll see. I also believe that my husband is depressed but he doesn't believe it. I think it's hard not to be depressed living with someone who is.

How would it be worse? I don't know how it would be worse. I can't think of anything because, of course, I think life would be so "dreamy" without my mental illness. I guess I think of it as a fairy tale world, a too good to be true kind of scenario. I don't think it could be worse than what I'm living now.





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*Sun*TotW: Without Mental Illness · 03-31-19 11:43pm
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