Under Construction - MHWA Retreat

While I don't necessarily agree that I'm taking care of myself for someone else, I do absolutely agree that the greatest gift my spouse or my children can give me is taking care of themselves. So in that sense, I agree with the quote. I know it's all my parents want for me but it's not WHY I do it. I do it for myself which is really the only way to be successful at it; when you are truly doing it for you.

I have been in situations where the other person not only didn't take care of themselves or even really learn who they were, they also blamed the rest of the world for their problems and didn't take accountability for their life or their choices. This is so toxic and as a result, that person is no longer in my life.

I have others in my life who just may never reach the same stage of life as me - they will cope through life and never learn to deal with it in a way that let's them live and be their best selves. Keeping those people in my life has taken a lot of acceptance as I consciously have to shut up and not preach what I think is best for them.

I take care of me for me. But I do it so I can be a better mother, friend, employee, daughter,. I fill my glass so that I have enough tot give to others.



August Leaf

It takes courage to be vulnerable
Brene Brown