Under Construction - MHWA Retreat

I disagree wholeheartedly. I think self care has to be something you do for your own sake, not for someone else. If you’re doing it for someone else, one of two things is going to happen: you’re going to become dependent upon that person and they’re going to grow to resent you, or you’re going to grow to resent that person because you’re doing something you don’t really want to be doing in the first place.
That said, it really is a bad situation when someone you care about doesn’t care for themselves. I am in a situation like that right now with my best friend and it sucks. The more I learn to care for myself, the more I resent the fact that she doesn’t care for herself. It’s exhausting caring for both of us! I find that I’m talking to her less and less as a result, and we are growing apart.
I don’t think there’s anything I need to do for someone else, but for myself I need to work on getting over my fear of getting a job. I don’t know where the fear stems from, but it’s there and it’s real and it gets in the way of me figuring out a lot about myself. In order for me to truly be happy and figure out who I really am and what I really want in life, I need to overcome this. I just don’t know how.