Under Construction - MHWA Retreat

In today's society where most people live online, words are widely used and abused for various purposes. Freedom of speech is also being abused a lot, maybe not so much in reality as much on the internet though. Anyhow, words are powerful because they can either make or ruin your entire day, week, month, year, life, depending on how much of it you allow yourself. I think people are responsible for what they let out of their mouth although not everyone wants to FEEL responsible. This is where the main problem lays.
Being present on the internet I see a lot of life motos in a sense that a person (be it a woman or a man) has to be a fighter if someone disagrees with their way of life or opinions. They'd say things like 'bitch please, look at yourself', 'bitches think I care about what they say'... No one teaches children today to be communicative, to take time and listen to the other side, to give them a chance to explain themselves and their motives, to try to understand diversity of people and opinions, to be kind and considerative and the most important to let everyone live their life the way they want it.

What I define as good communication is always taking the time to listen and consider the other side, being open-minded. The same rules apply to the other side as well. One side communication can't be good communication. I'm actually a very quiet person in real life though and don't have a lot of people with who I can have a somewhat normal conversation. My cousins come over and ask for the internet password and they spend the entire day on Facebook or Instagram instead of communicating with me. My friends come over and have long monologues about how shitty their life is during which I have no time to open my mouth and say something. When I do say something they reply with: it's easy for you to say . So, instead of falling into depression (like my sister) because of an excessive amount of negative energy they bring on me, I learned to be quiet and reserved with such people.

I do love to talk to people who have the qualities I mentioned above and I'd prefer to talk to someone like this face to face. Body language is as important as words and you can say so much with it that through the messaging or phone calls, for example, you couldn't. We don't have to agree with each other as long as we are able to be considerate and take time to actively listen to one another. I just don't have many of this kind in my offline life.

I can't think of any specific situation where my words fixed problems. Well, okay, I've been in situations where a simple 'I'm sorry' fixed random awkward moments but who hasn't? Other than this, I don't remember any major event where words did harm/good.