Sweet, lovely Monalisa,

I can feel your pain reaching out, and gripping my heart on this one. I’m so sorry that these thoughts, unfulfilled desires, and just plain biology are plaguing you as they are— I know that I’m incapable of fully understanding where you’re coming from, due to my age, different life experiences, etc., but I WILL say that I DO know, that your worth, and your value as a woman, and as a human being, are NOT contingent upon whether or not you procreate. I know that’s what we have been conditioned by society, ‘the church,’ our education system, and for most, even our own families, to believe, but THEY. WERE. WRONG.

I know that’s hard to believe after all these years of having that ideology shoved on you to the point where you probably started reinforcing it to yourself, in your own mind, but it’s true— as great of a mother as I know you’d be, if it weren’t to happen, YOU would STILL be YOU; every bit as creative, powerful, intelligent, resilient, fierce, beautiful, compassionate, valuable, and LOVABLE, as before! Not ONE of those traits would no longer apply, simply because ‘the clock ran out’ on being able to have a child, in the traditional sense.

Absolutely NONE of this, is to say that your desires to be a mom, or to have kids, are irrelevant or inconsequential, though. I hope you know I’d never imply such a thing. In fact, I think that desire you have is a beautiful, and lovely desire, and I want with my whole heart for it to come true for you! I’m just trying to say that this desire doesn’t make up your whole IDENTITY.

Have you thought about freezing your eggs? I don’t know how much that costs, though. Or have you thought about finding a sperm donor? That also has logistical cons, and Im sure you’ve thought of everything already, but Im just trying to brainstorm.

Anyways, I just want to end by saying that your writing was beautiful, and I love reading your poetry! I love knowing that, like me, poetry is therapeutic for you— so, I hope putting these thoughts and feelings down on paper, made the burden you carry a little lighter. You are so irrevocably loved, worthy, and valuable. You are also such a gifted writer. I adore you.

~DestinyAwaitsDarling

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