sacrament of marriage:adultery

Sacrament of Marriage: Adultery

In Christian Marriage, Fidelity is one of the most important factors that coheres the married couples. Despite that this has been one of the important things to be protected and to be consecrated in the unity of the married couples, it is still inevitable that this is not being perfectly served and utterly protected which arises to the separation of the couples. Conjugal fidelity is the faithfulness of the couple as they lived with their marriage contract that last till death.
Let the husband render to the wife her due and so the wife to her husband. The wife has not authority over her body, but the husband; the husband also has not authority over his body, but the wife. Do not deprive each other, except perhaps by consent, for a time that you may give yourselves to prayer. Then return together lest Satan attempt you because you lack self-control ( 1 Cor. 7:3-5 ).

After two people had been united into one through the sacrament of marriage, there must be a fruit of their unity which is a sign of the obedience of God as he says “Be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth and govern it” (Gen. 1.; 27). Is this the only reason for the constitution of the sacrament of marriage? The First end of marriage is parenthood and the formation of children (Can. 1013, 1). There is something significant thing which is lurking in the sacrament of marriage which is not evident to the first purpose of the institution of marriage and that is the bliss and mutual development of the partners.
This second purpose is attainable if there is conjugal fidelity in marriage. With this ethereal promise and duty in the sacrament of marriage, there is still adultery which is the infidelity either to the husband or wife to have another one outside from the unity of marriage. This dilemma has been immanent in the society which is the arising façade of marriage. Fidelity rules out any carnal relationship with a third person and demands absolute conjugal unity, “of which the Creator has Himself given us the first example in the marriage of our first parents, when He willed this marriage to be between but one man and one woman” (Pius XI, Casti connubii).
The unity in the marriage is constituted by Christ Himself and that is why, we Christians should be strict on this and be obedient followers of Christ. Thus, adultery is big NO to our Christian Faith and it is being implemented by the Roman Catholic Church. If any one says that Christians are permitted to have more than one wife at one time, and that this is not forbidden by the divine law, let him be anathema (Council of Trent; Denz. 972; cf. 969). But this not only the basis of committing infidelity inside the marriage but even sins of thought or desire are in contrast to the fidelity that must be found in marriage: “ And I say to you that whoever looks upon a woman lustfully has already committed adultery in his heart” ( Matthew 5:28).
Despite the fact most of the Christian people already know this which is founded in the Divine law, the problem of adultery still exists and it seems that there is no hope to blot it utterly in the entire pace of humanity. Is there still hope just to shrink this problem which seems like an insurmountable one? I think there is still a way out of this infidelity not only to the people who are concern over this problem but also to God.
This fidelity is not limited in the marriage contract and it is more than faithfulness of the commitment being made under the eyes of God and people.

It requires that man and wife be united by a special love, by a holy and pure love. They are not to love each other in the manner of adulterers, but as Christ has love the Church; and Christ has surely enclosed his Church in boundless love, not for His personal advantages, but solely for the good of His bride. We are speaking , then, of “charity,” not something founded on purely carnal inclination and quickly spent, not limited to affectionate words, but residing in the deepest sentiments of the heart and also—for love proves itself in deeds—manifested in external action ( Pius XI, Casti connubii). It is a sharing in common of the whole life a habitual intimacy, a society (ibid.).

Adultery arises when love diminishes which coheres the marriage in unity under the grace of God by the internal and external phenomenons like lust and violence. Thus, those people who chose the vocation of marriage should make a profound effort to find the right person and commit their selves totally so that in return, they will glorify the kingdom of God. Marriage is one of the most important institutions of love which is manifested here on Earth through the marriage of Christ Himself to Church which is constituted by all of us. It is pleasure indeed to be wed to our Creator and it is our commitment not to commit adultery in any way especially in the context of marriage between one man and one woman.