Which blow came first and which one hurt the most |
The First Blows About 5:00 in the afternoon on a hot humid day in July, I was shocked into the realization, that I had made the biggest mistake of my life. My mother had died on June 1, 1975. Well Steve proposed on June 10th and we had a church wedding on June 27th of the same year. I didn't question the rush, since I thought he was the only one for me. He could turn the charm on very thick. This was a very vulnerable time for me. My mother had died, my father turned to alcohol and I was all alone. With marriage on my mine I didn't even think about the fact that my dad put the family farm in my name on the same day of the proposal. Many times I have wondered if that was a coincidence. Anyhow, approximately three weeks after our marriage I received the ultimate shock of my life. We had a heated discussion about him borrowing my dad's truck. I don't know which one hurt the most. Was it the blows to my head which gave me two black eyes or the unexpected cruel words he blurted out as he poured a 2 litre Coke over my hair. Automatically I asked for a divorce. He then threatened taking one-half of the property given to me by my father. He couldn't do it legally, but I didn't know that at the time. There was no way I would let him take my inheritance. He took something more valuable than property. I still wonder sometimes which blows hurt the most in the marriage doomed to be filled with abuse. |