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Rated: E · Monologue · Philosophy · #1797067
We wonder which holds the best outcome, dating or remaining single?
What is the status of dating yourself?          


This article may or may not fulfill everyone's quest behind the goal regarding the title. I would like to skip the indulgence for a pity party or the temptation to stalk my mailbox with unsolicited invites to be your plus one *Bigsmile*. My current relationship status is a happy monogamous infused symphony with life and myself. Yes, it would seem that perhaps it is a polygamous relationship since I have more than one partner, LIFE, and myself. However though I do love both my permanent daily life, my Saturday night fling is myself or vice versa depending on the weekly routine. This decision derived on several test experiments during life past and the sudden present.
Through the years, I have found euphoria in the eccentric yet entertaining moments of dating myself. Does this mean I have given up completely on the hope of finding a mate? Never, this is only a test. I have attended movies, recreational activities such as strolls on the beach and parks, and dined solo as well. The first time I went to dinner it took a few minutes getting used to but after a while, it was a phenomenal experience. I normally settle by the bar even after reserving for a party of one. It may sound weird but it is actually quite comforting and satisfying to the soul. So I ask again, what is the status of dating me?
Some may refer to it is as familiar words: lonely or pathetic perhaps aloof. This could be true but trust me the social calendar is always full. I acknowledge the reasoning behind labeling because it may accumulate from the lack of recognition and acceptance that dating yourself could be an anomaly to some. As I spoke with a close family friend regarding the issue and the advantages presented through this solo adventure, the frown of unspoken judgment weighed heavily. The benefits presented through personal experience are magnificent. Time is my best friend and it is a pleasure to operate solely on a personal digital accountability of my whereabouts. The attraction principle amplifies because the walls of intimidation demolish. Moreover, there is only decision for execution and if a change of heart arrives, the words compromise and curfew sail outside the edge of non-existence like an invited guest to a party, and finally yet importantly, exploration and discovery are limitless.
There are some disadvantages though. The binding forces of conversation are inevitable and become a sticky and tricky situation because though the main purpose is enjoy “alone” time, it becomes harder to resist and politely “hang up” your energy. It starts with one word and then a response, the energy amplifies, therefore attracting more people around your seating area, and instantaneously a solo date has transitioned to a group date.

Perhaps if I choose not to respond then the feeling of regret pours over me like a mixture of heavy rain and bird defecation all at once. “What could have been?” or did the ONE above judge me that instant for not extending kindness to a stranger? I ask myself. Perhaps we might have been destined to meet for a beneficial reason but selfishly, I allowed myself to dismiss the opportunity. There are plethoras of unanswered questions in previous solo interludes.
The Compromise:
Granted there is not a familiar face to share moments of laughter, flirt sessions, or a tango handholding dance, however I am grateful to learn the following. I have discovered different types of patience with society and most importantly myself. In addition, I have also learned to become even kinder to others because there is an endless time to LISTEN while personal self-awareness levels increase. Is it that detrimental to explode over a less than perfect liquid courage concoction?
Let us foreshadow to the future where the status becomes “active.” I would suggest finding time to "date ourselves" to my other half. This concept would not only strengthen our cohesive web as an entity, but our independence as individuals.

By Laura M.A. aka ~FreeSpiritInk~
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