A special bond between a parent and a child can't be destroyed. Their love is never ending |
When raising kids parents aren't supposed to show favoritism towards one specific child. All children are supposed to be loved and treated the same as the others. However, the special bond the child and the parent hold may differ between each individual child. Because while all the kids currently may get treated equally their journeys into this world were far different and the bond they share with their parents are one of a kind. When having kids the first child is the hardest out of all the kids you will have. Simply because this is the first time ever having to care for someone that is dependent on you for survival and your so focused on what to do and what not to do. The second child is a little easier for a parent because the parents halfway know what to do and what not to do. The trick is introducing the new sibling to the first child and them get along. Now the third child and any others from here on out are the easiest. This is because the first two were the guinea pigs and test dummies as to what to and not to do. The third sibling gives the other two children someone to pick on. My mother had the opportunity after she gave birth to all three of her children to write out how she felt right after labor. After she had my eldest brother she immediately saw the love and trust in his eyes and could tell her job was to focus on keeping her kind, strong, and independent little boy safe so he could grow up and be whatever his heart desired. When my mother gave birth to me, in other words, the second child, she wasn't fully prepared with a spacious home for another child at the time but my mom felt from the second she saw me that we had a special bond no one could ever touch. And as long we had that bond she knew she'd be able to protect me so that I would be safe. And growing up I knew I was loved and that no matter what my future held I had the support of my family. My brother, however, didn't like the idea of me at first but growing up we always managed to get back at one another. When my mother had my youngest brother she went through it like it was nothing and was able to see his beautiful brown eyes quicker than she had my brother and I. Now that our pack was complete we lived our childhood making great memories and torturing one another. In closing, in my opinion, parents have the hardest job of all, because they have to raise the next generation based on what they know. They have to raise their kids knowing right from wrong praying it'll stick so they live a happy successful future. While parents are raising their kids they have to watch the children fail and try and correct them while they can. Then when they're old enough to have their first boyfriend/girlfriend it will be hard to watch your little boy/girl fall in love but will be even harder to watch them go through their first heartbreak. When all along you want to cry with them your the one that must remain strong and be there for him/her. In conclusion what I admire most is sometimes parents have to go without to make sure we have what we need first and they have no problem doing so. No, not all parents can give their kids everything they may want or desire and sometimes they may not know how to show their love. But their love is there and would die if it meant keeping their children out of harms way or kept their kids from having to endure any kind of pain. Parents have had that type of unconditional love for their children since the day they knew of their presence on this earth. When parents become parents it is for better or worse. Just as in marriage...parents love their children no matter what. |