Toddler Issues

Aside from needing a lot of care in their first year of life, caring for an infant is generally one of the most rewarding times for new parents (and grandparents)

I believe in the grand order of things, it was meant to be this way. Parents needing to connect with their infant and vice-versa....in preparation of having a strong attachment between them BEFORE they become toddlers.

As baby's first birthday nears, Mom and Dad are notably excited at the many smiles and giggles that emerge from their little one. On the flip side, however, they are astounded at how loud and long he can maintain an ear-piercing scream!

Suddenly screaming becomes a way for the little one to express his displeasure and often, change Mom's "no" to a "yes" just to retain her sanity.

Taming a Toddler with Love and Determination

Lots of self-proclaimed "experts" are quick to offer a myriad of advice:
Ignore him
Put him in a "time out"
Spank his little bottom so he knows he's being bad
Offer him a bribe (something he CAN have in place of what he wants)

The fact is -- every child is different! The MAIN tactic to use in dealing with your toddler's crabbiness, however, must be one of a positive nature.

Be in Charge!

As parents and grandparents, it is admittedly difficult at times to be the ones in charge, especially when it seems it is the toddler who has all the energy! Be that as it may, planning ahead will help you save some of your energy by allowing you to just "follow the plan" when a tantrum hits the horizon.

A Critical Point to Remember! When little children throw temper tantrums, it means they are "Acting Their Age!" We so often forget that this type of behavior is actually normal, for which we should be happy. Their little bodies and brains go through such enormous growth during the first few years that it would truly be strange to see a toddler who had full control of his emotions.

Plans of Action + Flexibility

For many, putting the screaming child in his room for a short time-out is one of the best ways to diffuse a tantrum. The most important point to note in this action, however, is that you not shout and scream while putting him there! The adult must be calm to demonstrate proper behavior.

Keep the child in his room only until the screaming has passed. When you open the door to allow the toddler to come out, say nothing about his bad behavior. Instead, with a positive attitude, give a hug and suggest something fun the two of you might do...read a book, go for a walk, make pudding, etc.

As for flexibility, this is important to consider as there are times in a toddler's life that stress is at an all-time high (when ill, when over tired, when a new baby suddenly appears in the family). If there are special stresses in your toddler's life, cut him some slack and give him the extra love and attention he needs to weather those storms. Doing so will not spoil him!

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When times get tough, just remember the well worn phrase that help's adults to cope..."this too shall pass!"

Happy parenting!