Living next door to a neighbour from hell. |
What would you do if your new neighbour, by way of introducing herself, turned up at your door early one morning drunk, asking if you had any suspenders that she could borrow? I was faced with this predicament three years ago; it was a school day and getting my son out of bed and organised enough to leave the house by eight was hard enough. I didn't need any interruptions, at this hour my mood is never good. Drinking strong coffee is a necessity. Without it I am that of a spitting cobra. I tend to become rational around ten and that's on a good day. When the doorbell rang I hadn't finished the first cup so whoever was there was on thin ice already. The alcoholic fumes hit me full on, making my stomach turn over. Clinging to the door frame and clutching a bottle of wine, my new neighbour seemed keen to spread the good cheer she was obviously feeling. When she put forth her request, I stared at her with horror. Kate Moss she wasn't; her appearance resembled that of a derelict who resided in the nearest hedge. Of course, the door got slammed in her face and I stumbled into the kitchen trying to figure out what had happened. Alex was bombarding me with questions having witnessed this strange encounter. Through the window we could see her making her way across the street to Alfie's house. Whether she got the suspenders from him I shall never know. An old man has his secrets. Ringlet Way is part of the Turnpike Down estate. I wouldn't say it was rough but the kids here have lessons in how to get an ASBO. (Anti Social Behaviour Order). Of course, when I first moved here I wasn't aware of the bad reputation it had gained because I used to live in London. Moving to the country and going for long walks in the fields that surrounded the estate was what I'd envisaged for me and Alex. Instead I got a reality check when my car got egged and scratched the day after moving in. It wasn't the welcome present I'd been expecting. I realised early on that there seemed to be a lot of tension on the estate, witnessing public arguments in the street between parents who fought over their children was a common sight. No one, it seemed, could solve the minor disputes that kids have without it becoming a huge drama. Alex, being the new kid on the block, was immediatly targeted and even today gets verbally abused in the street. As time went by, keeping to yourself and trying to live quietly wasn't always easy. Halloween, for example, became a nightmare. The usual eggs up the window and if I didn't answer the door it would get kicked. Using this traditional holiday as an excuse to cause trouble, the teenagers didn't bother with masks and costumes. They would knock on your door and just ask for the money. If you refused, verbal abuse would pepper the air and my car parked outside would get another scratch. Toys and garden equipment would suddenly go missing from the back garden, which was often used as a short cut by several people on the run from the Police. The barbeque we were enjoying at the time was kicked out of the way as they made a desperate attempt to escape. Complaining was pointless; it turned into a case of my word against theirs. Police are regular visitors to the estate and know many residents by their first name, anti-social behaviour being the main reason for their almost constant presence. Being a small estate it seemed everybody knew your business whether you wanted them to or not. My new neighbour's antics were just another thing to gossip over and just a few weeks after she'd moved in the rumours were already circulating. It wasn't long before she knocked at my door again. Now sober she introduced herself to me as if we'd just met. This was followed by a list of items she needed to borrow, including use of phone, cigarettes and not surprisingly, headache tablets, as according to her, she had the hangover from hell. Judging by the empty wine bottles that overflowed her dustbin on a regular basis, it was hardly a revelation. I don't mind lending the odd item to a neighbour but when they begin to think of your house as the local convenience store it gets a bit much. After a while I would pretend to be out, ignoring the incessant ringing of the doorbell, hoping she would get the message. She didn't. Blanche, as I call her is not her real name and when it's mentioned, which is often, people tend to screw up their face so it's appropriate. Her daughter, I've called Grace for a similar reason. Loud parties next door became the norm. Countless requests to keep the noise down were ignored. Blanche and Grace and a never-ending stream of visitors seemed intent on making everyone else's lives miserable, mine especially, as I was the nearest neighbour. Lack of sleep had made Alex fretful and anxious, which in turn, worried me. The stress of this left us unable to relax in our own home. It's hard to keep to yourself when a drunk person follows you into your back garden and won't leave until they finish telling you their problems. I'm not an agony aunt, I'll sympathize up to a point but sooner or later a person has to help themselves. The people who did this had serious drink and drug issues, hard to deal with, when you have your child with you at the time and witnessing it all. As a result we rarely used our garden as the constant interruptions spoilt the enjoyment somewhat. Complaints had been building up against Blanche and Grace, as neighbours got fed up with the constant noise. Police cars would turn up repeatedly as would the ambulance that took Blanche and her friends away when the never ending parties got too much. Warnings from the local Housing Authority were sent to them but to no avail. After a while the drink-and-drug-induced lifestyle got to her daughter. Grace was barely sixteen when she left home. Despite the miseries she caused us for the two years she lived there, I hope she's doing well. Having a mother, such as Blanche, can't be easy. It wasn't a surprise that Grace behaved in the way she did. It's bound to have an effect. The sight of another ambulance outside Blanche's house, as I've said, was a common occurence, except this one was different. It had been converted into a home for two adults and two large dogs and was used to sell drugs from about twenty feet from my kitchen window. Three months it was parked outside, attracting the addicts from Blanche's house and others in the local area, causing further misery to people on the estate who just wanted to live quietly. Seeing a man inject his neck in full view of children playing nearby led to the police descending on Ringlet Way in droves. The awkward questions from Alex about the ongoing situation were difficult to answer. It made me angry that my child had seen such damaging behaviour from adults who should have known better. Blanche had a criminal record as long as your arm. Her all too brief spell in prison gave residents a chance to enjoy home life and some sense of normality. Unfortunately, upon her return, nothing had changed. Her 'friends' were no longer around but Blanche's chronic addiction to alcohol led to more grief and scary situations for many residents. The final straw came one night around three am. Blanche had taken to wailing the word 'please' over and over at all hours of the day and night. Now alone, unable to deal with her manic depressive addictions and no one to supply the booze she desperately craved, the only thing left was to ask the neighbours. Again. Of course sleep was impossible as her wails could be heard echoing all over the estate. Reduced to tears, I wondered how much more misery we had to suffer in order for something to be done. The previous week her smoke alarm had sounded for forty minutes waking me and the neighbour on the other side. Blanche had put a chicken stew on the stove to cremate while she passed out in the bedroom. A fireman who arrived in one of three engines shook her awake. For saving her life, I didn't even get a thank you. Perhaps it was a cry for help. I was more concerned that my house could have gone up in flames at the time rather than be a shoulder to cry on. Thankfully, someone had already called the Police and to see her taken away was a huge relief. That night almost half the residents on the estate had been disturbed by her begging for booze at their door. The local Housing Authority received more complaints and finally with enough evidence to proceed, court action began against her. Blanche wasn't seen around for a long time, admitting herself to Rehab for the third time meant she was finally facing the demons that plagued her for so long. Rumours circulated that she would be evicted from her home, rent arrears being the main reason. Obviously the three years of anti social behaviour were included but that meant witnessess coming forward willing to appear in court. I wasn't willing. Living alone with my son and being the one most affected by her behaviour, made me vulnerable. Some of Blanche's friends were not the sort of people you would want to meet on a dark night. I gave a statement and hoped for the best. No one wanted Blanche to lose her home, I didn't. The woman needed serious help not prison. At the time I had no knowledge of the crimes that she'd committed. It all came out in court when she blamed everyone else for her problems, The Judge had seen enough evidence to send her to prison for twelve months. Once she had served her sentence then her home would be repossessed, leaving her homeless. The house sat empty for a year while she resided at her Majesty's Pleasure, the garden was overgrown and used as a place to dump rubbish and several windows were broken. It was a sorry sight to see when coming home from work. The Housing Authority couldn't do anything until Blanche was released, then steps could be made to redecorate it ready for another tenant. I've learnt a lot from this experience, not through choice, I have to say. Seeing a once attractive woman deteriorate through an addiction is heartbreaking and I'm just a neighbour. Her problems became mine as she bought them to my door at all hours. Sympathizing is a waste of time. It doesn't solve the problem. It's pointless offering help or rehab when the person needing it is not willing. Blanche will have to realise this if she wants to conquer her addictions and reclaim her life again, if she fails this it means wherever she goes another neighbour will endure the same hellish nightmares that I've gone through. Not a nice thought. In today's society everyone has encountered anti-social behaviour of some kind and respect for others seems a thing of the past, which is a sad thing. I want my son to enjoy his childhood as I did. It pains me to see him suffer through the actions of others. Not everyone on the estate is bad but as few families, such as Blanche's have destroyed what could be lovely place to live. With her house now being decorated for a new tenant all thoughts of Blanche are becoming a distant memory. Life is back to normal and we can begin to enjoy living in peace again. Sounds of shouting in the street still make me panic, if only for a second. It's strange how some things take longer to forget. I guess time will change that. At least I hope it will. |