Marriage is a 3 - legged race

Dear Child,

Yesterday your mother and I completed 30 years of living together. I had a meeting to attend at Ranchi, India and she had to submit her promotion papers, this gave us an opportunity to be together for the whole day. Both of us sat back and reflected.

Your mother and I are very different individuals; 30 years back we were little rigid too.
Look at this;

There was not a single vegetable available that your mother did not enjoy and I ate only a few and that too cooked in one particular way.

I'm a movie freak and your mother is so particular that ends up not seeing one.
You were not born ....... we had gone to see a movie at Nataraj cinema.
After about half an hour she tells me I am feeling very sleepy, I was in no mood to leave and told her let us see for some more time ....... five minutes later she got up and walked out . After sometime, when she did not return I walk out to the lobby and what do I see....all cuddled up she is fast a sleep on one of the sofa’s kept in the lobby.
I smile, wake her up and we drive home.
Her remark, I can't keep awake, drop me home and you go and see the movie..........
I don't think we have seen many night shows in last 30 years.

I am an adventure freak and she has developed love for walking during the last 5 years.
And the list can go on.

We are two very different people. However, there are certain fundamental things where we don’t differ.

For both of us, our parents are very important people in our lives and we give great respect to this.
For your mother, my mother says, ‘you are a daughter to me’.
This is equivalent to a post doctoral degree for a daughter in law, in most of the countries around the globe.

We, realize that as two individuals we need to be different. We acknowledge this and respect the difference. We continuously share what we do, this is to help grow and understand each other better.
There are issues, on which we have divergent views, we agree to differ, this is normal.

In 1975, we committed to share our live, raise a family; give ourselves to the family.......our FIRST priority, all else second. We always talk our issues out, never go to bed angry.
We are different and will respect each others difference, take interest in each others activities and support each other....... AT THE END OF THE DAY WE ARE 2 SIDES OF THE SAME COIN, a COIN.

To us, marriage is a journey on which two people with four legs decide to lead their life, running a three legged race. The more you synchronize the better you run.
It is a daily affair you cannot leave today, for tomorrow.

Reflections we share.

Lots of Love.

dpswamiji