Book review of a dating how-to book for 50+ year old men and women. |
As I was searching online for new Dating How-To books, I stumbled upon an interesting book called It’s Never Too Late To Date. This amazing book is geared towards 50+ year old eligible bachelors and bachelorettes. If you are 50 or know someone who is 50 or older struggling to find Mr. Right, this book is the solution to your dating dilemmas. The following is an excerpt from the book: Chapter One Play the Cyberspace Numbers Game Computer dating is a lot like a raffle. The more tickets you buy, e better your chances of winning. So don’t register with just one e-dating service, sign up with two or three: Match.com, eHarmony.com, JDate.com – all of which have “mid-life” or “senior” age tings. Or Google and scout sites specifically embracing the 50- Plus category. Not immediately, of course. Sign with only one at a time until you’re comfortable with the process. But don’t put all your eggs in one skillet. E-mail a daily dozen of appealing gents. Many won’t respond, but – do the math -- all you need is one. If, like my friend Amy, you complain, “No one answers my e-mails!” the answer is, “Try changing your message. Try changing your picture. Or, to put more arrows in Cupid’s quiver, get on more dating services.” That worked for Amy, but not immediately. You have to be patient, determined, and, even when things aren’t going your way, appreciate the adventure. Why not? It’s a long time since you felt as though you were starring in a Kate Hudson dating flick. But don’t think of each date as a potential husband. Relax and enjoy the ride. Savor the moment. And don’t forget good old-fashioned pre-computer newspaper personals, return calls to which usually cost a few dollars, but can be a great source of possible suitors. Inserting your own personal won’t cost all that much either. A good ad could keep you busy answering the phone and dating forever and a day. If there’s a phone number for you to call and you have to leave a message -- which is the way classified personals work – make sure your tone isn’t flat and monotonous. Barbara panicked and hung up. “I’m going to call back, but what do I say?” she wailed. “Say, ‘I’m exactly what you’re looking for. I’m fun. I’m sexy. I’m smart.’ And say it with enthusiasm” is what I told her. I could advise that course with enthusiasm of my own because I’d already taken it successfully in answering an ad in the New York Times. (Yes, personals are “old- fashioned,” but a lot of people still use them.) The advertiser wanted someone “well-traveled, short, thin, and attractive.” I phoned and left a message, “I’m exactly what you’re looking for.” He called right back, but unfortunately wasn’t what I was looking for. He was a rancher and wore the Stetson of the cowboy trade. Very romantic, but my memory of a friend who took a trip to a Colorado dude ranch and had a horse fall on her, shattering her hip, was still fresh in my mind and did not help his cause. Still, I should have given him a chance. Even a second or third. It takes that long to make a fully informed decision. Beware of rogues and scoundrels. Take sensible precautions. Never give a man your phone number until you’ve phoned him fi rst to get a sense of what he’s like. (Of course, that will only work if your phone is equipped to hide your personal ID.) Don’t reveal personal information. And (you knew this already), don’t invite him to pick you up. (You won’t have your father there, looking grim, to inspect him.) Arrange to meet in a public place -- a Starbuck’s, a diner, a museum. If he insists on meeting at your place on a fi rst date, put him on your “To-Don’t List.” There are Computer Casanovas out there -- both male and female. Your chances of encountering one are slim, but knowledge about them is power. To find out more information about the book, It's Never To Late To Date, visit: http://www.itsnevertoolatetodate.com |