Be Nice to Morena

She is hostile and controlling. She believes that her opinion is fact. I do not want to know her and yet, because of extenuating circumstances, I continue to try to get along with her. Morena is one of those people whom you think you are going to be great friends with until you finally realize that she has been trying to brainwashing you into believing that her way is the only way and everyone and anyone else is wrong.



I first noticed her obsession with control and being right about two years ago. This is embarrassing because I have known this depraved person for over ten years. I just could not agree with what she was saying and I just could not keep my big trap shut. She tried to insist that she was right getting down right vicious with her words and general attitude. I asked her what was wrong thinking she just could not really be that monstrous and there just must be something wrong in her life that I do not know about. Her reply was, “You’re so judgmental!” Where did that come from?



Ever since that day Morena and I have struggle to bear each other’s company for the sake of others that we both know. I have asked a few of the others if I was being unreasonable. A couple of them said no, that Morena had issues that she refuses to deal with honestly. One just said that everyone is different. This same person will give Morena a pathetic excuse to get off the phone.



True, I am opinionated in nature on some subjects but I do not begrudge other people’s viewpoints. My philosophy is to agree to disagree and then leave the topic alone. I can do this almost all the time with others. I do get hung up when the issue involves one of my kids though. And yes, Morena and I have done verbal battle about my kids. The first time I could not let it go but after that, I learned to walk away and just go on to something, anything else. The fact that I do this infuriates Morena to the point where she may actually pop a blood vessel and have a stroke. She wants to clash with me for some unknown reason.



I asked one of the others what was the deal with Morena. The reply . . . She is jealous. Jealous of what? Well, I have not gained as much weight as she has over the years and have even lost some weight during the past two years. I do not think that is something to be jealous about although I know that it happens. The relationship I have with Hubby is more affectionate than hers is with her husband but they seem to be suited to each other. Or maybe it is all an act. Who knows?



Maybe I am not capable of understanding her feelings of resentment because I d have never really harbored this feeling myself. I would rather befriend someone who has what I want and learn from that person on how to obtain it, whatever it is. And if I cannot acquire it, learn how to handle not having it. Maybe, depending on what “it” is, this friend might be willing to share or even just give “it” over.



I hate not having a grip on this relationship with Morena or this lack of a relationship. I can get along with almost everyone just by doing the “Road House” thing -- BE NICE. It is not working with Morena and I hate the bitterness that grows inside of me because of it.