Everyone
Loves When Death Is A Keyboard And Screen Joke: The Suicide And
Cyberbullying Mystery
A man posted on his public Facebook
status that he was going to kill himself. 90c/o of his friends liked
the status, 5% reacted with laughs, and it was of course quite
hilarious. A further 4% reacted with love and an odd 1% reacted with
sad then the comments began pouring in torrents.
His 1000 plus friends trolled,
cajoled and bullied him. The experts among them noted that those who
actually kill themselves do not say it in public, a further group of
experts told him off to his face on that social media wall of his
that he is a chronic attention seeker merely looking for likes and
sympathy, a manipulative cry baby who needed to grow up and stop
walking in baby diapers.
The religious chaps in his circle
told him that Jesus had paid it all, he only needed to trust in him,
in fact they summarized it all in three words of encouragement to
him, "it is well, " never mind that none of them even
bothered to find out what was actually wrong with him or the thing
that was eating him up. The motivational speakers among his mutual
friends bombarded him with stale copied quotes from memes, books, and
sermons they had read or heard. They told him, "What doesn't
kill you only makes you stronger."
Then the strangers and public
opinion experts' knowledgeable in all things joined the thread. They
laughed, booed, mocked and cheered him to go ahead and do it. Some
offered him the best ropes and the strongest poison brands if he
needed any, others, on the other hand, offered him YouTube videos and
tutorials on 1000 ways to die, the avid readers shared with him
expert books on how to kill yourself painlessly. It was a joke to
them.
12 hours later they woke up to the
news that he was no more. Condolences came from all quarters, his
silent friends suddenly found their voices, the cyberbullies became
the most concerned, and they were the most sympathetic in the
comments section. An MPESA pay-bill account was formed to contribute
money for a good send-off of a great friend and icon. Candlelit
vigils were held, streets closed and matches in his honor held daily.
People poured tributes from all over
the world, conversations about suicide with him as the case study
went viral. I just woke up from that dream and realized friendship is
overrated, sometimes all those you have called your bosom friends are
Mike Sonkos who will expose your nakedness for all and sundry to see
when you are completely down and helpless therefore don't sweat the
small stuff. Live your life, care for those who do and forget those
who don't, take a walk through a dark tunnel, when you come out on
the other side to see the light, you will be clear on who your
friends were, don't be sorry if you found none, that is life.
Funerals too are overrated so don't worry much about yours. The crowd
will come through when you cross that line so why not just live and
let live?
Mental health discussions need to be
taken out of the closet and brought to the public table. It is a high
time the society began talking about suicide openly and not as a
taboo or a shameful topic that would rather be handled like a hot
potato.
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