Can We Talk 2

Another Auld Lang Syne?

         How the time flies. Seems like last week when I was analyzing my goals and trying to make some breakthrough goals. It's been full and filled year. I haven't lacked for things to do and sources of stress. However, it hasn't been as bad as some years. For that I'm thankful. I regret only that I didn't make better use of the time.

         Sometimes, it seems like we're always setting goals, or resolutions or giving ourselves some kind of makeover. As though we just can't be happy with ourselves or the progress in our jobs or social lives or finances, we search for the next big step in life coaches, pod-casts or self-help books. What does this dissatisfaction say about us?

         If we go at this process with the idea that some "answer" is out there, like striking it rich, or finally finding perfect love, or losing that last twenty pounds, or getting into the right club, we'll probably keep getting disappointed. On the other hand, self-improvement is not a bad idea at any age or any level of achievement. Broken resolutions are usually due to setting our specific goals too high or within too tight a timeline, or it doesn't achieve what we truly want.

         For instance, if faith is important to us, then spiritual growth is a worthwhile endeavor, so our goals should be measurable things that support that growth. If we want to retire on time without going backwards in our lifestyle, then we need to update the goals that help us achieve that. If we want more time and money for travel, what are we willing to sacrifice or change to make that happen? We do need to be clear that our goals are not just a detailed "to do" list. We also need regular evaluations and be willing to alter our goals or change the deadlines.

         Having goals is important, even for retirees, so that we don't just keep wandering aimlessly and end up broke, unhealthy, and all alone. Knowing what we want to be in three years, five years, and ten years is important, whether we're 21 or 71. We all want to believe that despite the great memories, our best days are still ahead.