We didn't plan for this to happen

This isn't Steel Magnolias!

My doctor told me that having more children would be extremely risky. Many women with Eclampsia have multiple kids, but the chance that I could die or have other serious problems is high. Sometimes a woman will have Eclampsia with her first child, then have a second and experience no complications at all. But there is no conclusive evidence that a second pregnancy would go like that for me.

When I was pregnant with Cadence, I often thought about having two kids--trying for a boy. But on the other hand, I can’t bear the thought of having another preemie. And what if something went wrong and I died? Or worse yet, what if my child died? I had the worst case of Eclampsia that my gynecologist had ever seen. The doctor at the hospital told me the same thing.

My mom is freaked out, worried that I’ll change my mind and try for another child. My husband has also voiced the same fears. When they mention it, I just say, “This isn’t Steel Magnolias!” I can’t risk my life because I want another child. Cadence needs her mother.