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A few days ago I entered a contest. I love contest, they give me a reason to find a story and finish one. It was one of those quick contest.

I wrote something that I was very pleased with. It got lots of high rates, so I had hopes that it might place in the contest.

Most of the time the contest is very good at keeping up with itself. Not easy. But for this round nothing was happening. I was frustrated and after a day had passed I thought I would see who was to be the judge.

I look at the forum's list.

There was dates and who was to judge.

On June 26th it said a certain person was.

I wrote them a very short note. It said:



Dear

Please judge your round of ...

(I gave link)


Hurry your killing us.




Boy was that a mistake. I am horrible dyslexic (this a condition I cannot help and interferes the way I can and do interpret things, often backwards or I skip over things) I saw July where it really was June. Two lettters. This person was beyond upset. They are shocked at my rude note and VERY upset.

Really it never occurred to me that "Hurry your killing us" was really offensive. To me, it is an expression like, "Waiting to find out what we had underneath the Christmas tree was killing us."

I write back and say I am sorry and I did not mean to upset them. I go into their port to look around. I thought if I gave a nice review that it might smooth things over. There really was not too much there, but I did find a nice short poem. I read and rated it high. I did deserve what I gave it a 4.

All of this was too late.

I checked my favorites and saw the contest page had moved, so I popped over. This person posted that I was very rude along with my name. If the person had not said my name I would have let it go. (See how I did not say any names in my post.)

I posted my letter I had written onto the forum after there curt note. I did not alter my note at all. Nor did I added anything to it. I did not feel it was the place to do so. I would never have said a word if they had not named me.


I wake to find a message from the person calling me names.

I write to the person whose contest this is going on with and say I am sorry. I offer to drop out of the round so that others work can be looked at with less mess. As I send this note off I get my review. It turned out they liked my story well enough to give it the honor of winning. I felt like such a huge smelly ass.

Then I read the note from the person's forum, which I thought was good.

Next, I looked at the message forum and the person who I thought was a judge had posted again. This time with a great deal of hate, swearing and alike.

I made the mistake. I said I was sorry. That should have been the end of it.

They posted rude notes on to a forum that they were no longer connected with.

FOR A PERSON WHO WAS CONCERNED ABOUT RUDE BEHAVIOR THEY SURE KNOW HOW TO DISPLAY IT. Some how what they felt should have happened to me did not. (This was before the winners were posted.) I am sure for a letter that was less than 10 words with no name calling and a mistake they felt I should have tarred and feathered.

How is what is an obvious mistake ONE NOTE going forever mark him as irrespirable?

How is posting the mistake onto the forum twice, cussing, calling names and demanding things anything BUT RUDE?!

I saw too that person has been overly upset with others as well and I am sure this why they are on longer a part of that contest. Not that they were forced to leave, they just sort of felt like they were not appreciated in the way they would have liked. Maybe they should have felt that way. But maybe the act of giving should be only that, giving and not hoping or demanding things back. I try and teach my child this. There should joy in act of giving just as there is joy in receiving.




In the end, I am happy with what I wrote. I am happy with how the person running the contest handled everything. And I am sorry that other person got so upset over a note.






So why post here? Why not. I needed to vent and this seemed like a better place for a vent than any of the other forums. I am sure, like many, writing is a great source of emotional outlet. Some how writing allows me to let my feels go.