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Romance/Love: September 02, 2009 Issue [#3255]

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1. About this Newsletter
2. A Word from our Sponsor
3. Letter from the Editor
4. Editor's Picks
5. A Word from Writing.Com
6. Ask & Answer
7. Removal instructions

About This Newsletter

Welcome to the Romance/Love Newsletter. My name is darkin and I'll be your editor this week. So sit back, relax and enjoy the ride*Bigsmile*


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Letter from the editor

A Different Kind of Romance


My husband and I will be celebrating our twenty-third wedding anniversary this year. We've had our ups and downs, and our share of difficulties. But our love has always pulled us through. Staying married this long takes a lot of work, but we both feel it is worth the effort.

Most romances only deal with brand-new romances. The couple meet, fall in love, get separated, get back together, and live happily ever after. They usually haven't met before, this is their first time together.

But romances do not have to be about first-time love. Rediscovering an old or lost love is a wonderful theme for a romantic tale. A couple who are going through a crisis of love and faith would make an interesting, and romantic, story. Even if the couple decide not get back together at the end.

You can use all of the usual reasons to keep your couple apart that you would use in a regular first meeting romance. But there are a few that are tailor-made for long-term relationships. Some of these plot vehicles might seem to be detrimental to a loving relationship. But remember, when creating tension and strife for your characters, all is fair in love and war.

Empty Nest Syndrome
Many couples experience relationship problems when their children finally leave home. They think things will be better with the kids gone. While that can happen, often times a couple experience a sense of loss after the children are gone. Maybe it's a loss of purpose or the realization they don't know their spouse as well as they thought they did. The loss can manifest itself in a lot of ways; from mild mood swings to a wandering lust, but all can make great romantic fodder.

Cheating - Real or Imagined
When one, or both, spouses believes the other is cheating it can really create tension and problems in a marriage. Whether true or not, just the suspicion can cause plenty of tension in an otherwise strong relationship. A spouse who believes their significant other is cheating might even try to even the score, so to speak.

New Job or Degree
Getting a better job than your spouse can cause some hard feelings, even if the new job is beneficial to the household. The same can be said of a degree, especially if the spouse doesn't have one. The spouse who doesn't have one can feel inadequate or left out. They might even wonder why their spouse is still with them.

Long-Distance Love
Sometimes, during a marriage, one spouse will have to spend a lot of time away from their love. Whether it is business or family issues that keep spouses apart this can create a lot of stress for a couple, even one that are very much in love. This can be especially hard when children are involved. The spouse who is away can feel guilt for not being there during good and bad times. And the spouse who is left behind can feel abandoned and overwhelmed at having to do all the things that two people did before.

Most romance writers seem to prefer writing about first-time loves. Those are a great romantic stories and fun to write. But I feel writing about rediscovering a lost love can be just as good. Romance in real life is about more than first love. People from all walks of life fall in love everyday and your writing should reflect that. Give the married couple a chance to rediscover their love, you won't regret it.*Bigsmile*

Thank you for taking the time to read. Happy Writing!


darkin


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Ask & Answer

Thank you for allowing me into your e-mail boxes for this week's issue. I had a wonderful time writing this issue and would love to hear what you think about it. Here is some feedback I received from my last newsletter.

darkin

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Submitted By: Lauriemariepea Author Icon
Submitted Comment:

a lovely newsletter, darkin--thanks!
i agree with the potential for magic behind romantic conflict; and as different as we make our characters, as long as they share fundamentally similar values, the readers can believe the two will come together by the end of the story because of that common ground. you, of course, illustrated the point best.*Bigsmile*

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Submitted By: sarahreed
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Thank you very much for the advice on writing conflicts into romance stories. This is an aspect I have struggled with, often making my characters too compatible so that the story is boring. Your advice has given me much to think about for the next time I go to write a romantic relationship. Thanks!

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Thanks for plugging my "Invalid ItemOpen in new Window. in the last Romance/Love newsletter, darkin. My portfolio is gathering dust.

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Submitted By: Adriana Noir Author Icon
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I couldn't agree more! My favorite romance novels have always been the ones with tons of conflict and a great game of cat and mouse. The Wolf and the Dove is one of the first ones I ever read and to this day tops my list of favs.*thumbup*

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