Not in order to
live - in order to thrive!
Do
you know a woman over 50?
Do
you love a woman over 50?
Are
YOU a woman over 50?
If
the answer to any of these questions is YES, the following ten things
are things you really need to make an active part of your life.
Volumes
have been written on what to do, what not to do, what you should
know, what you probably don't know, and on and on and on concerning
women as they do what our culture tells us is the worst thing a woman
in 21st Century America can do: get older.
If
you are one of these over 50 women, as I am, it's all just a little
bit disconcerting. And I can't help but think, at the bottom of
most of this onslaught of information is the motivation to separate
me from the hard-earned cash I've finally accumulated a little of
after more than a half century on the planet. Yes, I have age spots.
Yes, I have wrinkles. Yes, I have gray hair. No, I don't think you
or your latest version of snake oil can do very much about any of
that. Why? Because, as everyone has pointed out to me, I wasn't
born yesterday.
After
some dedicated research, and more than a little bit of effort to
separate the facts from the hype, I've established my own list of
the top ten things every woman over the age of 50 needs to know and
put into action for her own benefit. For better or worse, here they
are:
Don't
underestimate your own knowledge of your own body. If something
feels not exactly right, it probably isn't right. Check it out
with a doctor you both trust and can easily talk to. (If you can't
do one, you can't do the other.) Heart disease is our greatest
threat. And it is nobody's fault but our own if we ignore or
minimize the symptoms when they present themselves. It is well
documented as the leading killer of women.
Move.
Walk, dance, swim, stand when you are talking on the phone,
intentionally park in the middle of the lot, take the stairs, wear a
weight belt around the house for some strength training. But move.
Stop
eating what you know is not good for you. Less processed. More
natural. Less red meat. More fruits and vegetables. Less salt and
sugar. More water.
Are
you still smoking? Seriously? After all these years and all you now
know? Enough said.
Enjoy
your one glass of wine each day, or your one bottle of beer or wine
cooler, or your one mixed drink. But that's it. Only one.
Have
sex.
Sleep
at least eight hours every night. I know. I know. If only I could,
right? Watch your alcohol and caffeine intake in the evening. Take a
hot bath and/or read a good book before bedtime instead of watching
an action movie. Turn out all the lights and turn down the heat in
your bedroom. Have a mental "going to sleep" routine, turning
off the worries and letting your thoughts go to a happy place.
(Reference number two and six.)
Forgive
someone. Start with just that one person who has so wronged you. You
know what will happen next? You'll forgive someone else, then
someone else, then someone else. You set the pattern for forgiveness
just like you set the pattern for holding grudges. Nothing ages us
more than holding grudges.
Listen
to uplifting music,
however you define that. If jazz floats your boat, go with jazz.
Maybe you whistle a happy tune to show tunes. Classical music might
be your cup of tea. Or you might be a believer that Rock rocks.
Gospel may be what speaks to your soul. Or you might be more than a
little bit country. Pick one or all of them. The benefits would be a
great topic for another hub.
Do
something each and every day for someone besides yourself. This
generosity gets the focus off your own limited universe and
motivates you to expand your comfort zone, stay connected with the
outside world, and continue to explore and learn every single day.
Just
learned this: Brush your teeth with the hand you don't normally use.
It's an easy routine to get into on a daily basis, and it will
significantly help fight off dementia.
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