Evolution of love

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A bit of a self-help book but amazing insights about love and relationships, and don’t we all need some self-help 😊. Visceral and intelligent, it’s about all kinds of love. Parents and children and siblings and lovers and husbands and wives, do read if love is giving you some heartaches; and even if it isn’t.

“We start off in childhood believing parents might have access to a superior kind of knowledge and experience. They look, for a while, astonishingly competent. Our exaggerated esteem is touching, but also intensely problematic, for it sets them up as the ultimate objects of blame when we gradually discover that they are flawed, sometimes unkind, in areas ignorant and utterly unable to save us from certain troubles. It can take a while, until the fourth decade or the final hospital scenes, for a more forgiving stance to emerge. Their new condition, frail and frightened, reveals in a compellingly physical way something which has always been true psychologically: that they are uncertain vulnerable creatures motivated more by anxiety, fear, a clumsy love and unconscious compulsions than by godlike wisdom and moral clarity -- and cannot, therefore, forever be held responsible for either their own shortcomings or our many disappointments.”-

Alain de Botton, The Course of Love.