Welcome! I stumbled upon your work through the “read a newbie” feature.
It is common for teenagers to take trips away from their parents for educational purposes, but often accompanied by trustworthy adults in groups such as scout camp trips or Washington DC trips. You may want to see if your parents can have a conversation with your boyfriend's parents to reassure them that things will be OK. I recommend telling your parents about how long you plan to stay, the safety precautions you plan to take, showing them the money you have saved for the trip, and telling them how you plan to spend the money. How much do you expect to spend on gas, food, etc. If you don't have much money to spend on the trip, it is wise to pack some sandwiches in an ice cooler, if your parents have one they will let you borrow. Will your boyfriend's parents provide food for you when you visit? Do you have any family recipes you would like to share by offering to cook for them at their place? Try to frame your trip in terms of educational value as much as possible. Trip planning is a valuable skill, and dealing with unexpected events along the way is also a good way to learn resiliency.
Once you turn 18, you will be telling them rather than asking, but parents still love their adult children and want to make sure they are safe. I graduated from high school in 2007, went straight to a 4-year university, and wound up living with a boyfriend I met in 2009. I officially moved in with him in 2010 because I was spending more time with him than at my apartment and didn't see the point in going back and forth all the time. I graduated from university in 2011 as planned. In 2014, his meth habit surfaced, and I wound up moving back in with my parents. I started dating again in 2015, and it was a bit annoying having to tell my parents when I was going to stay the night at someone else's house, but they pointed out that they also tell me when they take a trip, and family members look out for each other.
I'm straight, but my parents are monogamous and I'm polyamorous, so that put an interesting spin on our dynamic. I was raised Catholic, and my mom still is, but my dad is atheist. My mom and I took long walks where I talked about my feelings to her, and she got to a place of acceptance, neither supportive nor non-supportive, and eventually let me have overnight guests in my own room and bed.
I got married in 2018, and I still have a boyfriend I met in 2016, but he hasn't gotten vaccinated against Covid, and we're still taking the pandemic seriously, so I haven't seen my boyfriend in-person since early 2020. We continue texting, though.
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